If I had a daughter I would tell her to understand she is a gift from God. I would instill that in her from the day she is born. There would be no competition between us as far as winning daddy’s affections or proving I am the better female. I would tell her there was a time it was considered a curse to have a daughter verses having a son. But that time is over because now the female child can be adored, respected and looked upon as intelligent.

I would tell her to always know she is a unique creation of God and God is something or someone deep in her heart. I would teach her to value this invisible presence at all times and to shield it from the temptations of the world. First and foremost she must always understand that boys are totally different than girls in more ways than just physical. I would let her know each year of her life requires a different understanding of the male species.

First of all, the boy is a hunter and he thrives to satisfy his senses. It is human nature for him to desire to devour her body but it does not mean you should surrender it to him, especially when God is your first love. I would teach her to understand it is normal to feel sensations in her distinguished female areas of her body that the male yearns to touch and explore. But understand this is human nature. This urgency is the continuation of the human species. Know precious daughter it is not your responsibility to give your body away for this natural process. The alluring of the eyes of the beholder and his strong desire to have you is no different than what happens with the animals in the jungle. It is called mating to bring forth life.

True, it appears romantic and magical when you read about it or watch it on TV. This is just a smoke screen to sedate you as your soul, spirit and relationship with God is compromised for a moment of lustful fulfillment. Once the sperm is released, things are never the same because God was not in it and He was put on hold while your self-value is dropped. Before you take off those panties, remember you are not alone. God is there and hoping He is chosen over satisfying the lusts of the flesh of another.

Once you have allowed yourself to become naked before the eyes of a male, you risk the chance of being an instrument for sexual pleasure and never seen as a flower again. The boys share their experiences with one another as though their experience was a just reward for all their efforts for cunning you into his bed. Virginity is special for it represents oneness with God. God has something for you when you wait for your mate and trust Him to choose him for you.

There are other things going on in life for God’s children besides sweating between sheets. There is much to be done in bringing light into a world where God was not considered instead of sex. The outcome is greed, lust, drugs, sexual abuse and hate. All just because one girl, someone’s daughter did not value herself as a child of God. Honor yourself. See the opposite sex as a means to exercise spiritual truth not sexual arousal for the outcome is illegitimate children and a cry for the father to be in their lives. Go in to the world knowing God is with you always. If only someone had told them.

Love is real. It is not based on being wanted and needed. It is based on a silent knowingness that together we can make a difference in this world. My daughter, your most important homework assignment is finding out whom or what God is and living it each day of your life.

By Linda D. Wattley

3 Responses to “IF I HAD A DAUGHTER”

  1. 1 believeinyou08
    July 21, 2008 at 3:03 am

    Linda, my name is Michelle Moorer and I read your article. I am touched in many ways. I was sexually abused by my father and mother boyfriend from ages 5-13 and I didn’t know the meaning of my body until I grew older to understand my body and the relationship with God. However, I self-published my first book called “Shh..Don’t Tell.” which talk about the abuse and the trials and tribulations I experienced during my journey.

    I am going to print your article out and give it to my daughter to read. Because I want her to understand her body and the true meaning of loving God and herself.

    Do you have any books on this title?

    Thanks for taking the time to write this article. I know if it touched me I am sure it has touched many.


  2. 2 Linda D. Wattley
    July 21, 2008 at 11:30 am

    Michelle, I do not have books for this particular title but I do have a “Healing Trilogy” on my website: http://www.lindawattley.com revealing the developmental stages of our soul from the tender early years of contact of molestation to the final stage when God embraces His wounded child. The characters share their heartfelt struggles of self-esteem especially their bodies in some cases. God bless.

  3. 3 bettye griffin
    July 24, 2008 at 6:39 pm

    I just had to post and say what a beautiful little girl!

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